28 December 2015
“You’ll need coffee shops and sunsets and road trips. Airplanes and passports and new songs and old songs, but people more than anything else. You will need other people and you will need to be that other person to someone else. A living, breathing, screaming invitation to believe better things.” -Jamie Tworkowski
I have always been a person who thought needing people was a sign of weakness. But I don’t want to be that person anymore. People, family, and friends are important and good for the soul.
I’ve also been a firm believer my entire life that you don’t need a man to make you happy, and I still believe that. But it’s also okay to have a man make you happy. Your significant other shouldnt be your entire life but it’s okay for them to be a big part of it. “If your boyfriend is your best friend you’re doing it right, if your boyfriend is your only friend you’re doing it wrong.”
You will need family. Even when you’ve betrayed them or hurt them and you don’t deserve them they will be there for you even when you don’t deserve it. Family isn’t always your blood relatives.Be thankful for the friends that turn into family. They will always have the deepest impact on your life, appreciate them.
And your friends, even the ones that aren’t quite family. They will be there too, maybe not always or in every way you need the, but the good ones, the ones who are worth it, will be. Make sure you’re there for them too.
And yourself. If all else fails you will always have yourself. It’s important that you take care of you. Know yourself, what you want, and what you deserve; don’t ever settle. You will always have yourself to count on, but remember, you can count on others too.
You need people and they will need you.
This is a journal entry I work back in December of 2015, way before I had this blog. And it’s something I just wanted to share. I think it’s important to go back and reflect on the writing I did in the past. It’s astonishing to see self growth and self-reflection on where I was mentally and emotionally during those times in my life. As I was reading through my old journal entries I knew I wanted to post one on my blog, but I wasn’t sure which one yet. This was the first entry I read and although I kept reading I immediately knew this was the one I wanted to share. With so much change and self-growth I’ve been encountering recently I still relate to this entry, over a year later.
My break up with Andrew has allowed for so much self growth and self discovery and I am so thankful for that. For most of last year my relationship was almost my entire life. In the moment I didn’t really realize how unhealthy that was. Especially being in a new place all alone, I isolated myself. Didn’t put myself out there or make many friends. Now, that I’m on the outside looking in, I realize some unhealthy habits I had. And I am so grateful I have broken them. I am gratful for the wonderful friends I’ve made and the greats times we’ve shared thus far.
Ever since my Aunt Dee passed I have been making more of a conscious effort to put effort into my relationships with everybody in my life. Family and friends. I am not perfect and still have a lot of improvements to make but I am doing better. With just the small improvements I have already made, I have noticed an increase in my happiness. Staying connected with people you love and care about is so important. Make sure the people you love know that you love them, you never know how long you’ll have them.
This year I also want to make an effort to meet new people and make new friends. I want to try more new things and do more things I typically wouldn’t have done in the past. (Nothing stupid or illegal, just more adventurous and spontaneous things). This year is going to be filled with love, and laughter, and good times with good people. I am excited to watch this year unfold!