The second post in the new series on my blog called “Meet My People”. Basically, each month I’m going to write about a different person (or people) in my life who as had a significant impact on who I am. My favorite humans. My day ones. My people. So, without further a due, meet my people: Tal aka BFE.
Tal has been my BFE (best friend ever) since 2009 (I think). We were both in 7th grade, 12 years old, at Illing Middle School in Manchester, CT. We met on the cheer squad and were good friends, but became inseparable our 8th grade year.
Towards the end of my 8th grade year my parents told me and my siblings that in the summer we would be moving to Germany. As a 14-year-old girl in the midst of trying to find her way and right before starting high school; this was the end of the world. I cried for days, I did not want to move away from my friends, especially all the way to Germany. I had my mind-set that I was going to move to Oklahoma and live with my Aunt Dee. Of course my parents shot that down real quick and in the summer of 2010 I moved to Ramstein, Germany.
Before my family officially left America we took a summer road trip around the US to visit family. Tal tagged along with us for 17 days! IT WAS SO FUN! We traveled to North Carolina, Texas, Oklahoma, and Nebraska.
High school is hard and we lived on opposite sides of the world, so keeping in touch sort of fell through the cracks. We still remained good friends non the less and we planned a trip to see each other that summer. I flew back to Connecticut and stay with Tal for two weeks, we traveled to Virgina Beach for the first time which is a story for another time. And then we both flew back to Germany, and Tal stayed with my family for about a month. We went a couple different places around Europe- the biggest being Paris. Tal and I both fell in love with Paris and we KNEW we were going to be friends for the rest of our lives. It was also here that we made our “pregnancy pack. We both agreed we wanted our children to get to experience what we were when they turned 15, which meant we were gonna have to have kids around the same time. Who ever got pregnant first has to just call the other one and say, “Bitch, get pregnant!”.
Over the next two years Tal and I didn’t see each other. Our entire friendship was long distance! During out junior year Tal messaged me about some stuff she had going on with her family. I was talking to my mom about everything and she said, “Why doesn’t Tal move in with us next year?” (We were moving back to America in the summer). I, of course, was like HELL YES!!!!!! It took a long time and it took a lot of work, but my family and I moved to Tennessee the summer of 2013 and Tal moved in! We were finally reunited after two years and we got to be roommate and do senior year together!
I will always always be so grateful Tal and I got to do senior year together. Moving to a brand new school during high school, let alone right before senior year, sucks. Having Tal by my side made life so much more bearable. Shout out to both of our parents for letting us do this!
Senior year was actually a lot of fun, even though we only had one friend, Josh.
The summer after graduation was the MOST fun. Tal and I took our first solo road trip to North Carolina and Virginia Beach! That trip is a definitely a story for another time.
And then, we joined the US Air Force.
Luckily, we both have the same job in the Air Force so the first 6 months of our tech school we were together in SA, Texas!
The most exciting thing Tal and I did during phase 1 is getting matching BFE tattoos!
And then, after living together senior year, being separated for 8.5 weeks on the same base, and 6 months of phase 1 radiology school- we had to go our separate ways.
That was in 2015, Tal and I have been long distance BFE’s ever since.
Tal is hands down the best friend I have ever had and I will ever have. It’s so awesome to have found a life long friend at such a young age! Tal and I were only 12 when we met. We turn 22 this year. 10 years of friendship!!! Our friendship has endured middle school, highschool, living across the world from each other, living together, basic training, and the military.
Over the last 10 years Tal and I have never gotten into a legitament fight, which is pretty impressive. Life gets busy and we are both busy people so there are times we go a week or two with minimal talking. But no matter what, no matter how long it’s been since we’ve last seen each other, or what’s going on in our own lives- we always have each other. Every time we get together its non stop laughter, most of the time for no reason at all! We have hundreds and hundreds of pictures together, countless memories, and even more countless inside jokes.
It’s been so incredible being able to grow up with such a great BFE without growing apart.
Tal is the most independent person I know, which has definitely inspired me over the years. She has been one of the biggest influences on me and 100 percent helped shaped me into who I am today.
Ever since the 8th grade Tal and I have always said, “We are literally complete opposites but also the exact same person.” Which is still true to this day, I think that has a lot to do with why we have always gotten along so well. It’s always been Tal and I through the good, the bad, and the ugly. All the drama of middle school and highschool, all the break ups with boys and all the break ups with friends, losing family members, major life changes, heartbreak, celebrations, 9 birthdays, Christmases, holidays, tattoos, joining the military, moving out and away from our families and eventually each other, and day-to-day life.
I honest to God have no clue what I would do if I didn’t have Tal as my BFE. There’s nobody I’d rather have had by my side for the last 10 years. I am finding it kind of difficult to even write about our friendship because I feel like there are no words to describe our friendship. NOBODY’S friendship, and I mean nobody’s, compares to Tal and I. That saying “third wheeling with two girl bestfriends is worse than third wheeling a couple” couldn’t be more true for us! And we will never apologize for it. We always keep it straight up 100 with each other, we’re not afraid to tell each other the truth even if it’s not what the other person wants to hear, and we have no problem telling each other when we’re either; being a bitch or just being annoying as hell!
Everybody needs a Tal in their life and I hope everybody finds their Tal! We’ve stuck together through our hideous middle school days, bitchy high school days, confusing “we are not adult” days, and we’ll be there for the “we’re engaged” days, the wedding day, the “we’re pregnant” days, the birthday of our children days, every single birthday until we’re dead, the “our kids are 15 so let’s go back to Paris” days, the retired days, and the old and smelly senile days.
Tal, you already know how friendship is unbreakable and unbeatable! I am so grateful for you and our friendship! I can’t belive this year is our 10 year friendaversy!!!!! Can’t wait for the next 10 and I am so excited to see how we both grow, change, and what the future holds for each of our lives.
I hope you never forget or question how important you are. How special you are. How smart, kind, insightful, sometimes dumb (leap year, the pyramids, lions to name a few), funny, hard-working, and brave you are. You have inspired me since we were baby 12 year olds and your strength continues to inspire me. Don’t forget it’s okay to be sad sometimes but being happy is much more rewarding. Remember to continue working hard but don’t let work become your life. Remember it is okay to need people!!! It doesn’t make you weak or any less. You will need people and people will need you. Thank you for always being there for me every time I have ever needed you. Who knows if we will ever live close to each other again, but I can’t wait for our wedding days. I can’t wait for our future kids to be bestfriends, I can’t wait for family vacations, shared holidays, and being the god parents for one other’s kids. I’m so excited for 80 years from now when we’re sitting in our nursing home reminiscing about all the fun, exciting, and sometimes stupid things we did.
You’re the very best friend EVER and I love you!!
Our famous BFE pose!
-Spread kindness, love, & gratitude like wildfire.